Welcome to WordPress. This is your first post. Edit or delete it, then start writing!
Often people who live with an alcoholic spend much any time, not all, of their time looking after the drinker. They worry about once he will arrive home, regardless if he will arrive home. These worry about what condition he’ll be in when he is born home, whether he will wear a good mood or spoiling for a fight.
Lastly it will reduce the fear of being left all on your own if the relationship finally turns into unsustainable. So if you live with an alcoholic make sure that you have a very good life for yourself and that you’ve got a network of family and friends that can support you when it’s needed.
Your self esteem will improve and your depression and worry levels will decrease. Having interests outside the home and the alcoholic will make you even more interesting and will reduce your degrees of resentment. It will help you to build a support network that could maintain you when things will be difficult.
It is a marvel that anyone living with an alcoholic has time to accomplish anything else, other than see to their drinker. Organisations such as Al-anon rightly suggest that anyone who lives with an alcoholic needs to detach. That is you have to stand back from the alcohol and let him lead his own life.
Most people who live with an alcoholic find themselves dropping touch with their friends. This doesn’t usually happen quickly, in its place it happens over time because you refuse first one invite, then another. Soon there are no invitations to decline any more.
There may be something that you have got always wanted to do, for example you may have wanted to learn more about applying computers, or learn about picture taking or learn to paint. These are definitely things that you can do for you.
On the one side it protects you in the shame and stigma of the problem drinking behaviour. It hides the worst with the anguish, arguments and worry but it also cuts you off from the very people that can help, your family members.
There is real benefits to having ones own life. If you focus on something other than your alcohol means then you will use less time worrying approximately him and his behaviour. Research suggests that being positioned to fend for very little can bring the reality of your partner’s problem home to your ex boyfriend.
Meaning worrying about him not as much, stopping clearing up after him and no longer making excuses for him and generally letting him experience the consequences of his drinking. Advised this is not an easy thing to do, especially if you have been caught up for his drinking for some quite a few years.
It is time to modify that situation. It is time for them to, not only accept invitations, nevertheless also to issue a few for yourself. It is time to give up hiding away and to quit being secretive about the conditions that you are facing. It is time to stop living in the darkness of the alcoholic and start living for yourself.
One thing that may help is to ensure you have a life of your own. As many people who live with alcoholics do, you may have been covering for your alcoholic and being sure that the world does not know of your problems. This wall in secrecy is a double edged sword.